Let’s Pump The Brakes

When considering adoption, take the time to count the costs.

At the residential ministry where I serve, we are seeing a marked rise in the number of boys who are from adoptive homes. In fact, there are times when the majority of the boys are from adoptive homes, and this has not been the case throughout our 34-year history.

It appears that we are witnessing an emerging trend.

Many years ago we began to hear of the tragedy of “crack babies”; newborns delivered by mothers who had smoked crack cocaine during pregnancy. Twelve to fifteen years later we began to receive these children into our programs. Somewhat related to this is the trend we witnessed years ago (and is ongoing) of Christians adopting children, many of whom were adopted from overseas. Now we are receiving these kids into our programs. Though it will not be a popular statement with those who are championing foreign adoptions, it is my opinion that many who are considering adoption need to pump the brakes a bit and get more educated before they proceed.

Many children that are being adopted from foreign countries are being adopted during adolescence. This is a dramatically different scenario than adopting an infant. With the rise of this practice, a new label has been formed to stick on these kids, and we do love our labels. Often they are labeled as RAD, or showing the markers of Reactive Attachment Disorder, which in my experienced view is not a disorder at all. If you adopt a foreign adolescent and they actually attach to you as would a naturally born child that is amazing, and this is the statistical outlier. It may even be thought of as a “disorder” if they do attach well. It is most common that these children will not attach in a manner that displays loyalty, trust and the traits of an organic and healthy child-parent relationship. It is just not fair to expect an adopted adolescent to bond to an adoptive parent in a way that is, in our current cultural view, healthy and normal. Much more common will be isolation, rebellion, disassociation, an oppositional relationship, and in many cases actual physical confrontations.

We have had many of these kids in our program, and in speaking to them we see that many did not wish to be adopted. They were somewhat comfortable in an orphanage environment where they understood the dynamic and lived among those who shared their life stories. They understood the language and the culture of their native country, but when adopted were torn from all that was familiar and taken to a place where the language was difficult and the culture was bizarre and complicated. Immediately they fell behind in their education and faced a world with unfamiliar faces and noises that are not distinguishable. Many of these kids are mesmerized by the images of wealth and luxury possessions that they soon learn are out of their reach. In my view, in many circumstances adopting adolescents can be cruel if there is not significant relationship building prior to signing papers and booking flights back to America.

On top of these complications, is the fact that many countries manipulate the system, keeping healthy and well-adjusted kids and placing for adoption kids with disabilities, chronic health problems, or signs of mental illness. For the zealous couple just wanting to adopt and not adept at asking the right questions, they will soon find that they have bitten off much more than they can chew.

I recently spoke to a father who had adopted a young boy from Ghana. After listening to the horror story that had developed within his home, I shared an observation. I told him, “Sir, what you did when you adopted this boy is much like a man who lived in a nice one-bedroom apartment, who adopted the cutest little Great Dane puppy.” He replied, “Exactly. We had no idea what it would be like as he grew older”.

Behind the scenes, we refer to these boys as Twice Rejected. They were rejected by their birth parents, and when they come to us they feel rejected by their adoptive parents. And this is not just a problem with foreign born adoptions, but without getting educated and going into the challenge knowing that there will be deep trials and possibly heartbreaking seasons, no one should consider adoption. You need to be aware and educated regarding spiritual warfare, generational curses and chemical issues that affected the child in utero. Do not assume that this child will look lovingly to you as the one who rescued them from peril and that you will always be their hero. The reality is that this is not likely, and that your efforts and your sacrifices may be met with disdain and rejection. It may take much longer than you may think for them to show appreciation, and for some, it will never come.

Adopting a child is a selfless act that demonstrates a heart to share a better life with a displaced child, but it should only be pursued after deep introspection and a sober-minded assumption of the risks. Then pray. Pray before, during, and especially after that child enters your home. After all, your warfare prayers may be the one element that saves that young life. I’d never want to discourage anyone who has heard the voice of God calling them to adopt, but I would encourage everyone to get together with a family who has trod this path, learn about the unique challenges, and walk into this commitment with your eyes wide open.

An Open Letter to the World

I sincerely apologize. As a man who claims to follow the teachings and mirror the allegiances of Jesus Christ, I have let you down. I fail every day in my pursuit of a spiritual ideal that goes against every fiber of my wicked human nature. I’m conflicted. In my heart I want to show you Jesus, but in my selfishness I want what I want. In my effort that I might reflect Jesus to you, I am admittedly a klutz. And my fellow Christ-followers are not doing too much better.

We’ve really blown it. We have failed miserably at showing you the way Jesus lived and loved. We are as prone to gossip as the next guy, we wrestle with fear as if we don’t know God at all, and we often place patriotism above our allegiance to God. Heck, some of us even equate patriotism with a love for God….Please forgive us.

We sometimes take on a posture that we are somehow better than you; that we have somehow obtained a level of purity that elevates us. The truth? We’re all, individually and collectively, a mess. We are still dishonest at times, though some of us seek integrity more than others in our tribe. We still endure divorce and commit infidelities, though we also champion traditional marriage, which I know must ring kinda hollow in your ears.

We talk about things like unity, yet we cannot agree on even the most basic tenets of the Christian faith. We are biblically instructed to eschew division, and yet we even have a name for our division. We call it denominations, and we have an array of denominations that must be baffling to you. We tend to argue a lot over trivial things like music, money, leadership and even Sunday morning garb. For all of this, I apologize.

You can wander into one church where the allegiance to coffee seems curiously disturbing, and into another where the haunting organ music sounds more like a Dracula movie than a place where our God is celebrated. You truly never know what you’re going to get, and don’t think for a moment that the name on the marquee out front will tell you what you can expect. What appears on the outside to be a mausoleum may prove to be loving and friendly and what appears to be a nightclub might be haughty and elitist. Again….I apologize.

Oh, and please (Please!) don’t assume that what you see on Christian television is a correct representation of Jesus. He did not take. He gave. He did not come to be served, but to serve. He did not seek earthly riches. He did not preach empty promises. In fact, he warned those who might follow Him that they would encounter hard times. He was a penniless, homeless vagabond of a God-man as much human as you and as much God as the Father in heaven. He was and is a beautiful enigma, and we have failed to portray Him to you in a manner that is accurate. Forgive us. Please forgive us.

What I am trying to say is this: Please do not reject Jesus because His kids can be such jerks. Please see that many of us are trying each day to be more like Jesus, but we are still human and trapped in bodies of flesh with minds that tend to wander. Please see past us to a loving and compassionate God who desperately wants you to know Him. Please overlook His representatives on earth and see the beauty of Jesus and the affection that He has for you. If you find His followers to be obnoxious, please know that this is not in the character of Jesus. If we appear superior, arrogant or manipulative, please don’t cast these attributes on Jesus. That’s not who He is at all.

I once had a friend who claimed to have converted to atheism. I asked why, and he blamed this decision on the dysfunction of Christians. That broke my heart. I asked him if Jesus had ever offended him, and he seemed stymied by my question. When I asked what was offensive about a humble carpenter who made blind eyes see, dead people come back to life, crippled legs dance and defied the religious snobs by touching the bodies of those who were despised and rejected, he seemed to settle down. I asked if he was offended that Jesus had immense compassion for those who were broken, entangled in sin, and hopeless….Yet reserved His most harsh and stinging words for the religious and the pious. My friend said no, these things did not offend him. I then simply encouraged him as I am encouraging you now.

Please do not throw out the indescribable opportunity to know the One who made you because some of us have failed to show Him to you.

Please do not pass on eternal life with God because we have allowed our humanness to supersede what He is trying to do in and through us. Please seek Him with an open heart. I can only tell you that I was once an addicted, angry, racist, perverted man only bent to fulfill my own desires. What once had me hopelessly ensnared is no longer powerful in my life.  I am no longer a slave to sin, which is also an indictment against me, because now, I choose to sin. This is inexcusable, yet I am not alone in my struggle. Jesus is real and He forgives me time and again.

I want you to know Him like I know Him, so please do not let our collective screw ups detour you from knowing your Creator and the One who so eagerly wants you to connect with His son Jesus. It is real. He is real. And I hope you call to Him today.

A Victory in the Struggle

I am a white man who grew up in Alabama in the racially turbulent 60’s and 70’s. My earliest memories include television news stories of race riots, sit-ins, dogs and firehoses unleashed on black citizens of my state, the firebombing of churches, and systemic racism both in my home and in my relationships.

The division according to color was all I knew. When I started my first job sweeping the floors of a car dealership, I was quickly and quietly instructed which bathroom we white folks used and which was designated for the “colored” employees. I was warned to avoid the black men who animatedly washed the cars while listening to an embarrassingly attractive mix of Soul and R&B music.

Lurid tales that denigrated Dr. Matin Luther King, Jr. were whispered by some and shouted by others. Many sought to sully his legacy even before he was cut down by an assassin’s bullet. In my white circle of friends, he was a meddling negro that needed to be taught a lesson. We were even ignorant of our ignorance. Growing up, the only black people I knew mopped the floors and cooked the food in the fellowship hall at my white Baptist church. So it was just like the Lord to years later use a loving and kind black man, who I first insulted, to share Christ with me while I was far from hope and headed to hell.

I remember times when my family would spot what we viewed as shameless and decadent….a mixed race couple. Oh it was a rare sighting indeed, but it was an occasional occurrence and never failed to elicit now horribly regrettable comments. I am thankful for both the forgiveness of Christ, the grace of my black brethren and that the scales that once clouded my vision were trampled on and left behind almost 35 years ago. Yet today, while we admittedly still have a long way to go in the uphill slog to racial equality and a society free of such superficial judgement, we should take a moment to recognize our progress.

What was once looked on with shame has now become beautifully commonplace. Mixed race couples are now so common that only the avowed racists, or the stealthy ones still among us, find it even worthy of noticing. And my how their offspring have become cultural icons, noted stars and incredibly popular without their racial DNA even being a factor. Here is a short list of those who have shaped our culture of late: Country singer Kane Brown, Yankees superstar Derek Jeter, sharpshooter for the Golden State Warriors Steph Curry and his “splash brother” Klay Thompson, golf icon Tiger Woods, President Barak Obama, up and coming star quarterback for the Kansas City Chiefs Patrick Mahomes, Oscar winning actress Halle Berry, female singers Alicia Keys, Sade, Mariah Carey and Vanessa Williams, former wrestler and box office titan Dwayne Johnson, Actor Vin Diesel, male singers Lenny Kravitz, Bruno Mars, Bob Marley and Ben Harper, actor Shemar Moore, and Meghan Markle who’s title is now the Duchess of Sussex.

And this is just the (very) short list.

All of these rose to prominence while their racial makeup was rarely mentioned. I believe that Dr. King, who was the forever-optimist, would be proud of this taking place with barely a ripple of recognition. At the ministry where I serve in Houston, we have several mixed-race couples. They were originally sought because of their strong Christian testimonies, the burden they share for hurting boys, and their committed work ethics. Their marriage relationships and their race were not a consideration of employment, and yet they all bring a diversity of thought and valuable perspectives we would lack if they were not called to serve here.

So sometimes we just need to take a moment, while laboring towards a greater goal, and recognize some unrecognized progress. What was once viewed as shameful, and what once caused men to lose their lives, is now not only protected by law, but fully accepted by society. I choose to celebrate this and to allow all of us a moment to find hope in the midst of the struggle that will inevitably go on.

So in this one significant success in the ongoing struggle, good job America.

Well done.



A World Void of Standards

It appears that we are growing more and more divided. Even after it appeared that we could not grow any more polarized than what we were experiencing a year ago, in the last few weeks we have seen an even greater wedge driven into the populace.

I like to boil things down and simplify them, and in my juvenile and basic thinking I am seeing a clear divide, and it may not be where you see it.

It appears to me that there are two clear sides to the overall debate. There is a side that likes standards, and wants to see standards upheld. While the other side is opposed to standards, endeavors to ignore them, and will do all they can to tear down age-old standards.

Among the more modern definitions of the word standard, there is this more ancient definition: “A flag, banner, or emblematic figure, raised on a pole to indicate the rallying point of an army or fleet.” In the Bible we hear of “raising the standard” and this is employed both in the modern sense, of raising an approved principle, or in the more historical sense, to raise a banner or flag that indicates the location of the battle commander or the center of the army’s strength. In ancient warfare, a soldier or warrior knew to keep his eyes on the standard that marked the position of his fellow fighters, and to be cut off from that standard would likely lead to his defeat or death. As a kid, we played a game called Capture the Flag, which had the goal of getting to and taking the opponent’s flag. In actual warfare, the flag, or standard, was critical to survival and to victory. This is why, historically, guarding and maintaining the standard mattered.

Yet we now have a simmering civil skirmish here in America over standards. Some want static standards while others want a more fluid and dynamic culture. It is interesting that the latter have worked to rebrand themselves as Progressives instead of the age-old label Liberals, and I believe this new moniker is more accurate. They see America as staid, backwards and stalled in a period of closed minds and outdated morays. They want to see America “progress” to a new paradigm. Personally, I believe that America does need progress in areas like race relations, prison reform, ending the reign of career politicians, and debt reduction, among other issues. Yet this is not where the Progressives want to slay the standards. They want to end standards related to genders, marriage, murder, ethnicity, crime, sexuality, education and many other points of contention. They seek a fluid society that is tolerant of everything except opposing viewpoints. It appears that a Liberal/Progressive Totalitarian State is more acceptable for them than what we have had for well over two centuries.

For those who believe that standards matter; that solid principles are the bedrock of a civilized society, it is not an easy sell to convince them to accept a world where those who despise standards get to set the new, ever-moving standards. And for those who see America as broken and Conservatives as racist, fascist rednecks who need to be tamed or brought kicking and screaming into the 21st century, the idea of a culture that promotes and reinforces standards is a hell on earth.

I’ve often lamented that my Conservative friends accuse me of being too Liberal and my Liberal friends accuse me of being too Conservative, but it is more that I am turned off by the far-Right and the far-Left and want to be an open minded man. I am rabidly pro-life, which means that the unborn should not be executed any more than the prisoner. I am for less yet wiser government regulation, a determination to attack our nation’s obscene debt, personal responsibility at all levels, and the Church stepping back into the role that the Word of God mandated and releasing the inept government agencies from the care of the poor and sick. I’m for liberally loving people and conservatively using money and power.

And at the end of the day, I believe that any society that wants to avoid the scrap heap of history should embrace solid, time proven standards. Yet standards must be evaluated at times. The standard of our nation was once the acceptance of slavery and race superiority, and I am grateful that we saw the error of our ways. In my world, which you can either accept of reject, I believe that we need a set of proven, unassailable and immovable standards that can be counted upon to never shift with the fickle moral appetites of the populace. This is where I find our Founding Fathers, in all their human fragility, to have been brilliant. They recognized that God’s Word, found in the Bible, contained the only solid set of standards on earth. They adopted them, and used the Bible as the springboard for the Constitution.

Today, in our secularized society which has for the most part rejected the Bible, there are no standards that cannot be torn down. It is required to first attempt to discredit and defame the Bible as the sole source of standards before you can attack standards in the public realm, and this effort is bearing fruit. If the Church does not unite, forgive, cast aside petty differences, return to fervent prayer and turn from its wicked ways this slide will continue until there are no longer any standards and the nation that used to be under God will fall to the humanists and the anarchists. On one side is perversion and lawlessness and on the other side is repentance and the restoration. Both outcomes are within sight, and though I believe that every legal citizen should vote, this battle will not be won or lost at the ballot box.

It will be won in prayer, humility and servanthood….Three timeless standards that are becoming harder and harder to find.


A Hair Trigger

It does not take much to set us off. With every news cycle that includes a mass shooting we hear the pundits and the prophets hit the airwaves to stir the pot of dissension that is the national debate on guns.

I had purposed to let this blog go out during a lull in the violence so that it would not appear to be just another knee-jerk reaction, but this week we heard the report of an unhinged man entering the offices of a Maryland newspaper and using a shotgun to indiscriminately murder five people. So there may not be much of a lull between these incidents in the future. Welcome to the America where life is cheap and where the inevitable results of the choices and decisions we have sown are being harvested before our eyes.

Like so many of the social issues dominating the cultural landscape, the gun debate is mostly the playground of those who populate the extremes. They are loud, they are intolerant of even the slightest hint of compromise, and they seem to attract cameras in a way that the more reasoned cannot hope to accomplish. As a man who values life and who also owns guns, I find myself in the middle of the debate, and it feels much like walking the dusty street of an Old West ghost town. There are not many people around here.

The NRA has made itself an easy target with their fierce and well-funded opposition to anything that hints at an intrusion into their 2nd Amendment rights. I understand why they take this posture even if I do not agree with all of their methods and points. Just like with the issues of abortion and gay rights, the opposition to these initiatives fear the slippery slope. There is certainly a give-an-inch, take-a-mile strategy out there and it is often deployed successfully. The gay agenda began with “tolerance”, then it was civil unions, then it was gay marriage, then full social and legal equality, and now they howl if they are not celebrated as courageous heroes overcoming gross injustice. In the abortion debate, those who passionately believe that life begins at the moment of conception have done all they can to chip away at Roe by flooding the courts with stipulations, limitations, time limits and lawsuits that have certainly made obtaining an abortion much more of a challenge.

In the same way, those who love their guns are fearful of any legislation that will simply be mud on their boots on a wet incline. They are not so fearful of the first limitation, but of the fact that gun rights opponents will assuredly not stop there.

But, in a rare show of common sense (if I may say so myself), I have thought to put down here in this arena, a policy that I hope will maybe move the needle ever so slightly towards sanity. Here are a few things that should be enacted:

A NATIONAL DATABASE CHECK. An one-stop shop; a site administered by the federal government that gains the participation and comprehensive contributions of all fifty states, local law enforcement, the FBI, ICE, Interpol and can be accessed quickly by legal firearms dealers without cost, lag or complications. There should be a permanent list of citizens no longer allowed to purchase or possess a firearm, and those who have had this right temporarily suspended due to a set number of reasons.

A 5-DAY WAITING PERIOD. It does not unduly inconvenience me to pick out a firearm, endure a background check, purchase the firearm and return five days later to pick it up. This simple measure would likely save lives. Emotions can blind people, and a reactive and impulsive firearm purchase is never a good idea. A few days mandated to wait and consider will not hurt anyone, and it will likely help someone….and that someone might be someone you love.

STANDARDS OF SAFE STORAGE OF FIREARMS AND PUNISHMENT OF THOSE WHO ARE NOT RESPONSIBLE TO KEEP FIREARMS SAFE FROM KIDS OR FROM THEFT. If you purchase a firearm, you assume a serious legal responsibility and both a civil and legal liability. There is no one debating that firearms should be inaccessible to kids, and that firearms should be securely stored against theft. Many firearms used in lethal criminal activity were stolen from the one who legally purchased the firearm, yet did not store it securely. There is no excuse. Wear it, lock it up, or face criminal charges.

MUST BE AT LEAST 21-YEARS OF AGE TO PURCHASE A FIREARM OF ANY KIND. This just sounds like common sense. The only time a person under 21 needs to hold a firearm is if they are hunting with a parent or legal guardian, but to sell firearms to those under 21 should be illegal, in all fifty states.

MANDATE CERTIFICATION AS AN ADULT WHEN A JUVENILE COMMITS A CRIME WITH A FIREARM. That’s right. If a juvenile is caught with a firearm, or commits a crime using a firearm, they should be treated like an adult and face the punishment that an adult would face. Then, trace the weapon to the registered owner if possible and investigate how a juvenile could have obtained the weapon. Prosecute the rightful owner if it is found that they were negligent in not safely securing the firearm.

There are many other issues surrounding gun control, like the fact that almost every school shooter since the two that assaulted Columbine were under the influence of psychotropic drugs. Most of these drugs have listed side effects that should not leave us wondering why these kids would commit such heinous acts. In addition, most teen boys have already killed thousands of pixelated humans before they walk into a school and kill a flesh and blood human. Along with rampant abortion, we have created a culture where life is cheap and expendable, and our kids have grown up awash in such a society.

In the end, the ultimate answer leads us back to the issue of sin and the utter depravity of man outside of the redemptive work of Christ Jesus. Each of us hold within ourselves the potential to commit every horrific act imaginable, so judgement is not a healthy response. Throwing accusations at those who do not hold to your view is also very counterproductive. Listening, acknowledging, and considering new ideas is both productive and respectful.

I believe in the right to bear arms, and I fervently pray that I will never be in a position to point a firearm at another human being with lethal intent. I know that I may save the life of an innocent, but I will cease another life and never escape the emotional pain of my action.

In conclusion, I hold the deepest respect for those scarred physically or emotionally due to gun violence, and will listen to your pain, and consider your words carefully.   CW


The Gay Quandary

In this space I am going to try to tackle a pretty complicated issue. I thought about just wading into these posts with a light first offering, but that has never been my way, and I thought…Why start doing that now? So here we go.

In our culture there are several cultural and societal issues that simply cannot be properly addressed in a quick sound bite or a Tweet. The subject of homosexuality in our culture, and the church’s response, is certainly one of these issues. There is, first off, a simple axiom that I go by when it comes to any particular sin, and in no case is it more fitting than with this particular sin, and it is this: I will neither condone nor condemn.

In the case of homosexuality, I feel it inherently wrong for me to drift to either the camp that condones what the Word clearly calls sin, or to the camp that condemns those who are trapped or blinded by this sin. It appears that most church denominations are drifting to one or these two extremes. Few are actively pursing a reasoned and nuanced response. And fewer are welcoming of those who are trapped yet want to find true freedom.

In all honesty, I believe that the issue of homosexuality has been horribly mishandled by the church. Part of the issue is the way the Enemy has painted us into a corner.  According to the Word of God, it is not proper to either condone or to condemn any sinful act. Listen to that folks: It is not proper for us to either condone or condemn ANY form of sin. We are not sinless….None of us, but we are called to abstain from sin as much as possible and to not embrace any form of sin. Yet we still find space to play the judge.

For some, they sin with gluttony. For others, it is ignoring the poor. It may be cheating on taxes or an algebra test. It might be adultery, lust, consuming porn, abusing alcohol, arrogance, coveting, thefts, or a pride-filled heart. It could be anger that takes root in a man’s heart, or he is racist either outwardly or inwardly. None of these are to be condoned or condemned. The Lord is clear that if someone is in sin we should lovingly warn them from that wicked way….not to be judgmental or hypocritical, but act purely OUT OF LOVE. Yet it seems that we have reserved a special allotment of condemnation for those who identify as homosexual, like none of us ever struggle with sin.

Here is the key: I love my homosexual friends and my YR sons who are practicing homosexuality. When we get together, the conversation does not go to who they are sleeping with or what they are doing behind closed doors. I minister to their heart as the Lord gives me the opportunity, but I will never condemn them. Yet neither can I condone their choice to embrace this most costly sin. Foremost, I want them to know that I love them, without condition. There are times when I actually wish that there was an asterisk somewhere in God’s word that made a special provision for those who are truly in love, or those who believe they were born this way, or for those who are otherwise so amazingly good.

But…..It comes down to this, and this is where each reader of these words must make a decision. Do you believe God’s word is true and applicable for today? See, I choose to believe that it is, and in the Bible it says that the homosexual will not inherit the Kingdom of God. So if I truly believe the Word of God and it says that the homosexual will not inherit the Kingdom of God, it is not compassion for me to turn a blind eye and let them fall into eternal torment…It would be hate for me to accept or condone this lifestyle. What kind of a person would cheer on any activity that would eliminate another person’s opportunity to spend eternity with God?

So if you choose to believe that the Bible is a worn out method of living, and that it is an ancient book of fairy tales, you can then feel free to decide what is right and what is wrong in your own eyes. You will no longer have any universal authority. But be warned, when each man rejects a single moral authority and can then decide for himself what is right and permissible and what is wrong and taboo, that society is headed towards annihilation. It will unravel as Rome did, as it fell from within from moral decay and corruption.

The Bible says that God is the same yesterday, today and forever. He is unchanging. He did not provide a set of Scriptures for the first century, and those Scriptures not apply today. I believe that the enemy has done a masterful job of painting Believers into a corner. Most gay people demand that we either condone and agree with what they do, or we are hate-mongers, homophobes, and fascists. I believe that there is room for a compassionate response. I do not see a man or a woman who practices this lifestyle as too far gone, or any more sinful than an adulterer, a gossip or a consistent liar. It is when we EMBRACE a particular sin that we walk into dangerous territory with God. He has provided a way out through forgiveness, grace and mercy. There is no second chances though if a person dies in their sin. And that breaks my heart.

So I will never condemn or condone. I will not cast a stone, and I will never agree with ANYTHING that can prevent a man or woman from entering the Kingdom of God. So my response is a stance of love, compassion and truth.

In the end, it all comes down to this….Are we going to believe God’s word to be true, or will each man be allowed to determine what is right and wrong? If you choose the latter, and you decide that homosexuality is ok, who are you to say that a man who chooses racism is wrong? Who gets to make the rules?? Maybe it is ok for a man to marry his sister. Who can say that is wrong? If the Word of God is not relevant, where do we gain our moral authority? Why can’t we have each man to be free to do as he chooses?

This will be the result of a people who decide that the moral authority the Lord provided is cancelled. They will no longer have a clear boundary, and sooner or later, anything will be and must be allowed.

So my word to those trapped in homosexuality is this: Is it not hopeless. You were created by a God of love who also created you to be in a passionate relationship with the opposite gender. And if He holds the astounding power of a Creator of this magnitude, it is well within His ability to heal and transform you. There is beauty and hope in a obedient walk with a loving Father. Call to Him. He is waiting. He is listening.   CW


Here we go….

I once saw a t-shirt that said something like, “BLOGGERS. Never before have so many written so many words that so few will read“. It was then and there that I decided to never write a blog.

So here I am, eating those words. I love to write, even though at times it feels much like laboring to deliver a baby must feel like. You can’t wait to see the outcome, but you first have to endure the pain of delivery. In all honesty, I really do not know what I am doing. For 34 years I have written a monthly newsletter, but that just consists of typing from my heart and turning it over to people who really know what they are doing, who somehow make my drivel appear readable. 

While looking over the WordPress site, I quickly became overwhelmed by all of the designs, customization options, language that mere mortals like me cannot understand, and a nomenclature reserved for nerds and geeks. So I have decided to just start, even though the final product may be pretty jacked up.

In everything else I write, there are smart people who proof read and help me with grammar and flow. You will not be getting this with my blog. It will be raw, rarely edited, often controversial and with only my own limited filter. So be warned.

I plan to write on topics that are interesting to me, yet are topics that are unfairly treated by soundbites and those little social media grenades that folks like to throw into the discourse. I will be writing on issues like transparency and vulnerability, but I will also be trying to give a sane and sober response on issues ranging from homosexuality to gun control to immigration to modern politics.

The views that I express should not be assumed to be the views of the organization that I lead, its staff members, board members or the dogs under the porch. These views will be mine, and I hope that not all of you agree with me, as I appreciate constructive discourse. I want to be kind and gracious as I boldly speak what I believe to be the truth. And at all times I will work to speak as one redeemed by an insanely loving and merciful God and as one wholly undeserving of the grace that each day I get to roll around in.

So if you’d like to follow my blog, I would be honored. If you then choose to actually read it, I will be pleasantly surprised. This is my first post, and it has been pretty homogenized. I cannot promise that the next installments will be so pleasant.

Curt, in Houston.